The Light Within or How to be Control-Resistant

Do you recognize this situation? Sometimes you can feel a bit lost. Your environment can react onto you and might want to make you feel bad. Maybe because you have done something that another doesn’t want you to do, for whatever reason. The other tries to control you. This can give you a bad feeling, as if you made some terrible mistake. But in the end, we should be aware that control is really an illusion. Wikipedia states: “The illusion of control is the tendency for people to overestimate their ability to control events”. If the controller lacks retrospective insight, it’s called introspection illusion. And the effect of trying to control can be counterproductive: “feedback that emphasizes failure can decrease or reverse the effect”. Being ‘controlled’ can really demotivate a person instead of motivating. The controller controls the controlled. For the controller, the controlled might be nothing more than a ‘controllable’ object. In that case, the controller probably has the illusion of superiority. Now how can you handle this type of situation? It’s very easy. There is light inside every one of us. This light makes us resistant against ‘feeling bad’ type of situations. And it comes at no cost. All you need to do is find the light within…