Eleanor Roosevelt once said: no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. He was very right. Suppose you have some intention to do something, of which you yourself are convinced it’s the right thing to do. You have prepared yourself a lot, investigated a lot, done your alignment and so on. And then you find out that one of the people you try to align with, interpretes your intention totally out of bounds. Your intention was oke but it gets not accepted. There is even a formula for the outcome of your intention: Effect = Quality x Acceptance.
So what should you do? Feel guilty? Feel ashamed? Feel frustrated? Feel sorry? Feel … ? etc. Well, an approach might be the following: the more you love your intentions (or the work that lead to them), the less you need others to love them. You should accept the world around you as it is. You are not perfect and so is the world around you and that’s ok. So you should accept more, and judge ledge. Go into flow. Never forget how a beautiful person you are. Never let another judge you for being something they think you should be. If people around you are not accepting you, let them and ignore the fact they don’t accept you. These people in fact spend a lot of energy in thinking about how things should be according to their own opinion, and thereby don’t accept the way things are. But the way things are is in fact already good enough. So by accepting that people who don’t accept you are not relevant, you build on your own self esteem. You might also take a look at as good as it gets: ‘This is it. This is as good as it gets.’ Happy accepting reality!