Hiding from the truth and transferring your personal responsibility to someone else, is something we probably all like to do from time to time. It’s very easy to say: “They should change something”, “The politicians are to blame”, “It was not me who was part of this idea” or “I love to change the world but I will not start until another starts first”. Etc. It’s a normal reaction. It’s based on fear. Fear to be the first. Fear to take initiative. Fear to be the leader. Fear to be hurt when something goes wrong. But we should fear even more the things that could go wrong if none of us actually does change something for the better. So get rid of the idea that you need someone outside you to get you started. You only need yourself. The only authority you need to take an initiative is that of yourself. You alone are responsible for your life. I am finding out for myself how to this works, and so far it’s not at all something I need to fear. So I wish you good luck in taking your own responsibility!
Posts tagged ‘Illusion’
We all like to gather facts so that we can feed these to our illusion of thinking we know the reality. That’s why we in general don’t like people’s opinions because these are not facts. But what is a fact anyway? Is it what you think it is? Or is it what I think it is? Or is it what we both think it is? And suppose you decide to consider someone’s shared thoughts to be a fact, it still is by far nothing compared to that persons thoughts. Because that person might share an opinion with you which is based on very beautiful, delicate, complicated thoughts which you will never be able to comprehend by only listening to or looking at the audible or hearable (shared) subsets of those thoughts. Marcus Aurelius has a nice way to describe this phenomenon: “If someone is able to show me that what I think or do is not right, I will happily change, for I seek the truth, by which no one was ever truly harmed. It is the person who continues in his self-deception and ignorance who is harmed.”. So don’t try to unlock someone’s mind in order to find out facts that can feed your own truth. Because your truth is yours only. And try taking into account these wise words of Don Miguel Ruiz: “What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” Good luck in discovering your own reality. And even more lock in combining your own reality with that of the world you live in, trying to make it better than it was.
We live in a world where many people insist on making decisions based on facts and not on opinions or on perspectives. But the idea that a fact is a fact is in fact an illusion. Even Marcus Aurelius knew it when he produced the following quote: “Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.” And modern scientists in the quantum physics area can tell us that nothing that is observed is unaffected by the observer. It means that everyone sees a different truth, because everyone is creating what they see ~ Neale Donald Walsch. So if you actually create the reality that you think you see, what is then the value of a fact? It is in fact always subjective. So be careful with your observations, because you might think they give you new ‘observable’ insights but what someone observes is always in the eye of the beholder. Want to get better insight from you observations? Share it with others and ask their opinion too. Together you make better or at least more complete observations. But always be careful with decisions made on just a few observations or on the illusion these observations can be earmarked as plain, undisputable facts. Have respect for the Unknown and embark on developing the Sensed in combination with the Known. This will give you a much better balanced decision support context.
We are all caught in the illusionary Rat Race or the Race to the Bottom. It’s a ridiculous thing. Why on earth would we continue running in never-ending cycles chasing never-ending illusionary goals? And at the same time maybe help in worsening a better global outcome? Because we are chasing the illusion of happiness by competition, we have not enough reserve energy left to come to real global happiness. Happiness supported largely by cooperation and care for each other. Service to others more important than service to self.
Think about it: you will always remain a rat, even if you win this race. But this is only a part-time victory. As soon as you have won a race, you will feel the urge to win the next one. It never ends. You will keep chasing your illusion. Stop with it. Spend your Energy on better things, for example on true happiness. You deserve it. We all deserve it. It is ridiculous to not want global happiness. So we need to stop these illusionary ratrace games, chasing illusionary goals stimulated by illusionary self-invented, self enforcing ‘burning’ platforms. And you need to see that the way we appraise people for their contribution to this illusionary ratrace performance is stupid. It only enforces the ratrace further. Performance comparison the way it is usually done will keep people from believing they are already qualified or capable. So how do we reinvent this ratract? For starters, we don’t have to put big efforts into trying to win the (rat)race as soon as we are able to see there really is no race going on, but a self-enforcing, global illusion that is controlling us. So it all starts with another mindset. This doesn’t cost any money.
Demi Lovato has a good point. Her quotes: “The mirror can lie. Doesn’t show you what’s inside. And it, it can tell you you’re full of life. It’s amzing what you can hide just by putting on a smile.” can get you thinking about how the outside can trick you. If you look into the mirror, you will never see the beauty you have inside. But once you dive a bit deeper, you will start to see and recognize the beauty that is inside. It’s inside every human begin. In fact, inside every living being. Beauty. It’s there. So the next time you look in the mirror, and it lies to you again, take some time and think about your true inside. Think about the beauty you possess inside. Because you are beautiful. And by accepting for yourself that you are beautiful, you will have a stronger feeling to not try to live up to the external imposed, illusionary standards of someone else’s ‘reference’ beauty. You will truly start to discover your beautiful self. And you will see that to be-you-tiful can be very beautiful. Beautiful, isn’t it?
The footprint of our egociety (ego-centric society) is well known to many of us. We dominantly like to focus on “gathering” things. Gathering identical or allmost identical things into collections. Gathering collections into even larger collections. Gathering ‘functionally identical’ people into functional departments. Gathering similar functions into technologies. Gathering companies into even larger companies. Gathering cars onto highway jams. Gathering employees into offices. Gathering money into our wallets. We love gathering things. It’s our way of ‘centralizing’. Because it satisfies our greedy egos. So we work basically with the goal to “gather”. It fulfills our lives. But what if we reduced this working to “gather” and increased working together? Shifting to a modus where besides gathering, we put increasingly more effort into distributing, sharing, decentralizing? Could it still fulfill our lives? Ofcourse it could! It’s just an illusion to think we need to “gather” much things in order to satisfy our egos. It’s not necessary. It’s just an illusion.
Especially in the Western world we seem to live in a society where being ‘Busy’ is normal. We like to pretend ‘Business’ to our environment because we think relaxing and taking things at a bit slower pace is not good. It’s a kind of taboo. Slowliness is an ugly word, right?
But what if the Western World would take over a bit of the principles from the Eastern World? Would we have less haste? Would we enjoy more every here and now moment? Would we spend less time reflecting on the past (which is an illusion)? Would we spend less time thinking deeply about the future (which is also an illusion)? Would we be able to create another type of society? Where abundance outrules scarcity?
If we looked deep in our hearts, we probably would not object to this type of world. But it is fear that blocks us most. Fear of changing the societal, economic and other systems we have created together. Fear because we don’t know how to change these systems. Fear because we think the change is too complex and interwoven. But there is nothing to fear. If we start by giving each other room for making mistakes while changing the old systems into new ones, we will see it’s actually very easy to change. Improve the world and start by yourself, that’s all there is to it. And don’t think it’s too big a job but instead think about the quote from Anita Roddick: “If you think you’re too small to have an impact, try going to bed with a mosquito in the room.”