Today I have certified myself als a ‘Self-Certified Unlearner, Foundation’. For the first time in my life I decided I do not longer need external approval for my own self-worth. This feels so good! Even so good I decided to un-learn so I can become a ‘Self-Certified Unlearner, Master’.
The biggest part of my life sofar I have spent learning things. Growing as we tend to call it. Becoming better. More intelligent. More skilled. Adding. Growing. More. More. More. Never good enough. We get indoctrinated in our (Western?) culture to add and grow, but only seldomly are we encouraged to take away what is not needed anymore. Mathematically speaking one could say we are only skilled in using the plus sign and using the minus sign we tend to ignore like hell. Our collective behavior one could summarize as masking our imperfections by adding external attributes that makes us look better or more grown or ‘owning’ or ‘having’ more. This feels like nonsense.
The last 5 years I went through a (sometimes disturbing) mental, emotional and spiritual rollercoaster. But it has given me the context to unlearn a great lot of things. It’s only in retrospect that I see now how much ‘captured’ I was in mental constructs. Constructs that have become an ingrained part of our (Western?) cultures. Constructs that have become so ‘common’ that we collectively have forgotten to re-certify .
On larger humanitairian scale it seems humanity has massively unlearned to re-certify certain culture core values. This is logical, because they became core values because we didn’t want to re-certify them. By promoting that strategy, we effectively created a cultural open-loop feedback poor learning process. Instead of a closed-loop, feedback-rich unlearning loop.
I cannot change this thinking for others. But I can change the thinking for myself. And that is exactly what I am doing. Going back to my own source. Back to my own truth. I do not longer need another person’s truth to feel worthy for myself. And that feels good!
What’s your un-learning story? Want to share your thoughts?
We all know that we are in the midst of economic and ecologic crises. More and more articles, opinions and research are pointing to economic theory as one of the major inhibitors for a truly sustainable, ecological world. That is because economy theory is based on pure rational but most people aren’t pure rational. Neither is the climate. So we better change that economical ‘scarcity’ thinking model now for good.
The good thing is that a mindset shift doesn’t ‘cost’ anything other than the willingness to accept it. And maybe it needs a simple guideline to explain the desired transformation. What about this one: from Economy to Ecology needs only two letters of these two words to be interchanged: change the n from economy to l from ecology and the m from economy to the g of ecology and we’re ready. And it can even be simply reminded: we change n to l because we want the ‘now I need my ROI’ mindset become a ‘long-term ROI is better’ mindset. And we want to change the m to a g because we want the ‘mine is more important than yours’ mindset to change to ‘globally shared’ mindset.
Simple, right? Let’s grow the ecology, not the economy. Good luck sharing this mindset!
I love philosophing about world-improving subjects. Our world is becoming more and more ‘flat’ not in the least part because of Internet and social networks that bring people together who otherwise would never have found eachother. It’s part of a global consciousness transition which could take on astronomical effects. Based on the universal law of free-will and driven by many (most?) humans wanting to handle as autonomously as possible, our world might evolve into a new kind of networking ecosystem. An ecosystem where we learn how to organize things that need to be organized in a totally different way than via our more traditional autority-based techniques like e.g. hierarchies. So, while I am a proud member of several “local” teams close to me, operating mostly in a well defined context, I am also more and more proud to be member of what I like to call “The World as my other team”. This “other” team as I envision it, is a virtual team where you and I share ideas, thoughts etc. and inspire each other towards world-scale improvement. That is holistically thinking and I am a believer that we need that more and more if we really want to solve todays many world-scale problems. The best way to do that, we all have yet to find out, but there are clear signs everywhere that we are willing to let go more and more of old ‘systems’ that helped us get to where we are now, but fail to get us really further. Perhaps by experimenting and using “the World is my other team” paradigm we find the breakthroughs we so desperately need. Happy team finding!
In this article from HBR a nice figure was embedded that caught my attention. It said literally in the figure “People behave less ETHICALLY when they are part of a larger group”. I don’t know if this is just a theory or knowledge gathered from analysis or science. But I have the gut feeling this statement is correct. It can be noticed whenever people gather in larger groups, regardless the context, their ethic ‘ceiling’ tends to lower, take f.e. with football (hooligans). It seems also true in ways many (large) businesses conduct their (greedy) growth with total disregard of the bigger (humanitarian) picture. If these businesses would reoganize themselves so they break up in many smaller highly autonomous groups (in fact a heavily networked, decentralized organization with a loth of local, decentral autonomy), this could demonstrate that these business still can work together optimally for society but in a much more ethic way. Especially those businesses that highly value integrity could lead the example.
Share the change you want to see in the World – transforming from personal to collective responsibility
If you are a bit like me, chances are you will also see a lot of stalling ‘systems’ in the World and at the same time you see a lot of opportunities for improvement but don’t really know where to start. You might suffer from existential loneliness. You might have feelings like “why am I seeing so many misfits and why do so many people in my environment think everything is all quite ok?”. You might even have experienced people saying to you “that every person has the birthright to their own physical, mental, emotional and spiritual growth” and thereby they trivalize any attempt to change or take some form of collective responsibility.
Many people still advocate the “be the change you want to see in the World” strategy which is very ok but also very convenient: now they don’t have to take collective responsibility. They now can say that it’s the reponsibility of the other. And hide away behind this because it’s convenient. But that’s ok. Not everyone is a “change agent”. So we need to help each other. The ones who are desperate for change but don’t know where to start and the ones who know where to start and are desperate to (unconditionally) help the others. What more would be needed for collective responsibility for those changes that need collective action because it benefits the collective?
Every change, small of great, incremental or radical, transformation or disruption allways starts with a single person. There just is no other way. So each of us have to take responsibility in fostering the change we so desperately want. It all starts with consciousness. Work on getting more conscious. Read a lot. Books. Internet. Listen a lot. Music. Other people talking. View a lot. Meditate a lot. Learn more and more to filter the real ‘news’ from the main stream media indoctrinated news designed to keep the current systems in tact. The more conscious you become, the more you will feel lonely (existential loneliness) and the more you will long to find ‘soulmates’ that share your worldviews but you will also feel increasingly more free and less enslaved. For me, this has been a beautiful personal experience which has made me so much stronger.
Your increased consciousness will make you become more and more aware of your own personal power. You start to discover how focus helps you walk away from the stalling systems and stalling approaches from the past. We need a lot of experimental/next practices, current “best” practices increasingly should be reconsidered again. You become more and more aware of the illusions you live in: the systems we as humanity have designed collectively and given our power or authority to, even if they hinder humanity’s progress. But these systems work now more and more against humanity than they are beneficial for us. Who wouldn’t want to change that so it helps us really progress? Start by talking about it, discussing it, making small local changes, experiment a lot bottom-up with new alternatives, share the results, build communities, change the system from within.
So take personal responsibility for the aspect of the change that you can handle. Ask for assistance for the parts you want to handle but cannot for whatever reason. Awaken the personal leader inside yourself. Find co-creating personal leaders that are willing to build this better World together with you. So that your personal leadership becomes collective responsibility taking. Start small. Ignore the current stalling systems and stalling approaches. They have their place too and should be loved for what they have brought humanity. Put no blame on people. It’s not the people, but the systems we collectively agreed upon that are sitting in our way. It was a giant learning experience from humanity to come to where the point we are now, let’s not forget that. And go on, and really progress humanity towards a we-all-benefit World. Leave behind the duality-driven, fear-based, competitive winner-takes-all World. It no longer serves humanity.
By sharing this article, I have taken the initiative to inspire you who is reading this, so you can inspire others. And because I think unconditional love for humanity benefits us all I post this message now from an unconditional love for humanity. I don’t expect anything in return.
Today I handled a comment from denisemward on an earlier blog We Need New Mastermindsetters To Help Change Humanity’s Mindset. Denise wrote: “I’m really enjoying this blog. In fact, are you still around?” She inspired me to restart blogging, thank you Denise!
I stopped blogging at the end of 2013 and reserved 2014 for a ‘blog sabbatical’. During the blog sabbatical I decided to put more quality time in the development of my mental, emotional and spiritual growth. It has taught me a lot of new insights. It also taught me to let go more and more of things, activities, experiences, that hinder my own growth. So far, this has worked out as planned (yes, you can plan spiritual growth).
I think I will focus this year on blogging about my own growth and my inspiration for humanity progress. Don’t know yet if that will be on a regular or random base. If you liked my earlier blogs, keep watching out for new ones!